All about Happiness
”Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us”. - Voltaire
Based on my post yesterday, many have asked me “…how do you forgive?... teach me how to deal with a forgiven hurt that refuses to go…. teach me how to heal and move on…”
First, to forgive does not mean to forget or that the hurt will simply evaporate. In fact, the deeper the hurt, the longer it takes to heal. However, forgiveness is to let go of the negative feelings that accompany the hurt - hate, bitterness, revenge, animosity; one truly forgives when one appreciates that the offender is, after all, human - imbued with human foibles and shortcomings. Difficult? Yes, but possible!
How is forgiveness made easy? Pray for the offender; discuss frankly and make it clear you’ve forgiven him; in your self-talk, speak positively about him/her; figure out how you created the opportunity for the hurt – because you did; cease to discuss the incident with anyone – and if you must, be positive in diction and disposition; above all, learn the lessons from the entire experience.
When you don’t forgive you’re a double loser – the bitterness eats away your innards, makes you unhappy, drains your energy, derails your focus, and eventually breaks down your health. The earlier you forgive, the earlier the hurt ebbs. Forgiveness is the soothing balm that heals you.
If we are always aware of the sacred light entrusted with us, if we always remember that to err is human, then it will be easier to enjoy the divinity of forgiveness.
Have a Happy Day!
Based on my post yesterday, many have asked me “…how do you forgive?... teach me how to deal with a forgiven hurt that refuses to go…. teach me how to heal and move on…”
First, to forgive does not mean to forget or that the hurt will simply evaporate. In fact, the deeper the hurt, the longer it takes to heal. However, forgiveness is to let go of the negative feelings that accompany the hurt - hate, bitterness, revenge, animosity; one truly forgives when one appreciates that the offender is, after all, human - imbued with human foibles and shortcomings. Difficult? Yes, but possible!
How is forgiveness made easy? Pray for the offender; discuss frankly and make it clear you’ve forgiven him; in your self-talk, speak positively about him/her; figure out how you created the opportunity for the hurt – because you did; cease to discuss the incident with anyone – and if you must, be positive in diction and disposition; above all, learn the lessons from the entire experience.
When you don’t forgive you’re a double loser – the bitterness eats away your innards, makes you unhappy, drains your energy, derails your focus, and eventually breaks down your health. The earlier you forgive, the earlier the hurt ebbs. Forgiveness is the soothing balm that heals you.
If we are always aware of the sacred light entrusted with us, if we always remember that to err is human, then it will be easier to enjoy the divinity of forgiveness.
Have a Happy Day!
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